#relationshipgoals

Ever ask why relationships are such a hot topic in the church?  Think about it….our entire world revolves around relationships.  How we think, feel, and act are predetermined by our relationships with our parents (if any) family, friends, co-workers, and even strangers.

The most important relationship we will ever have hopefully is our relationship with Jesus.  Just imagine for a second, we treat Jesus like our absent father who wants to rekindle a relationship down the road.  We ignore his phone calls, or we only call him when we need money.

How about treating him like an overbearing, but nurturing mother?  You only run to momma when you feel like your world is over, but as soon as a little light shines through your gone.  Running to your pleasures again and leaving your poor mother behind.

Maybe you treat Jesus more like that annoying co-worker, you pretend to listen to as they tell you about their weekend.  Or you abruptly end the conversation because they get on your nerves.  You’d rather spend time with anyone else than them.

Or maybe Jesus was like the homeless man you saw on the street and said to yourself, he  only wants my money to buy liquor and you pass him by without thinking twice.  Whether you have a super close relationship with Jesus comparing to the mothers scenario or more similar to the annoying co-worker it’s safe to say your relationship needs work.

The concept to grasp is that you want a healthy relationship with all five relationships, including Jesus.  The key to acknowledge is that the only way you can have a healthy relationship with those on earth is to first develop a healthy relationship with Christ.  This takes time!  Spend time with as if he were your BFF.  The love that Jesus has is not like your parents.  It’s so much more!

THE GOOD THINGS TO ASK GOD FOR

I can amaze myself sometimes.  I’ve been in the game now officially 5 years and it feels like I am riding the Batman ride at six flags most days.  Just when you think you got all the answers God comes back and says you’ve got more room to grow.

No problem God….smh

One lesson that I seem to be reminded of constantly is learning to ask God for “good things” in his eyes.  We can learn from our ancient bible friends like David to ask for a clean heart and renew a right spirit.  However, there is nothing wrong with asking God for a baby, spouse, car, house, etc.  But there are things that make God smile when we ask and perhaps we forget about them because life seems to pull at us on every side.

What are these “good things”?  I’ll list a few below…

Righteousness….

Oh boy!  You will tug on the heart-strings of God if you ask for this right here!

His word tells us, “Blessed are those that hunger and thirst for righteousness for they shall be filled.” Matthew 5:6

Essentially what you are asking God is to clean you from the inside out; to make you whole.  You have heart and desire to be more like him.  To walk in the Spirit and not the flesh.  There is nothing more pleasing to God than this…besides the faith that goes behind believing this.

Peace…

The peace God gives will leave you in a place of tranquility.  Only God can do this!  No substance on earth can bring this kind of peace.  If we could just learn to keep our minds on Jesus we can have it.  Every single day!  No matter the situation you face!  I can remember a moment in my life where I should have just lost it.  My mother died in 2014, she was only 57, and I was 32.  I carried for months such a rest, a peace from God that I couldn’t even grieve my mother’s death until months down the road.  As a matter a fact I rejoiced!  She got saved a week before she died and that lifted my soul.  

Gifts of the Spirit…

Healing the sick, casting out devils, teaching the word of God, winning souls, missionary, pastor/preacher, etc.  These are gifts that you may be uncertain about, or you may have and don’t how to activate it.  These are good gifts from the Lord and should be used to bring him glory, not ourselves.  

 

God loves us so much and blesses us everyday, uniquely for each one of his precious children.  There are many things we can ask God for, but as we watch time and this world wind down learn to ask for “good things” in the Father’s eyes.

God bless!

DOES HE HAVE VISION???

It’s a new year, new day, and I pray a new mindset for everyone!  

I hope all of the singles crossed over into the new year.  Still believing, still practicing abstinence, and filled with expectancy!  I know that last year was rough!  And if you are like me, weary can’t describe how you felt in 2016 while waiting on your mate. So what I want to say to you is this!  Focus on your relationship with God in 2017!

Before we begin to stress about whether we are going to meet our spouse’s this year….it’s good to reflect on your own growth and maturity in Christ.  Ask yourself are you the wife/husband you should be.  It’s easy to say what we want and desire out of a relationship!  But think about what you are bringing to the table. 

For the ladies the biggest issue nowadays is that we spend so much time chasing the man instead of allowing him to pursue us.  The biggest issue for men now is that he doesn’t take time to ask God about the woman to be.

The problem with Christians and dating is that we assume we have all the answers.  Sadly we don’t and that’s why the divorce rate is just as high with Christians.

*Ladies!  You can’t expect to have a god-filled marriage when your man has NO VISION!  He should be seeking and have sought God for the plan for his life.  If he does not know what he is destined to be or do then he is not ready for marriage.  You’ll end up following him to a dead end. Girls get rid of all your excess baggage, emotions, doubts, fears, and past experiences!  You have to be ready to give your husband your all! 

 

*Gents!  You can’t expect to find a wife and find a good thing if you are pursuing an idea of what a woman should be.  Beauty is temporary!  It’s like shopping for new sneaks.  You have a plethora of choices.  Once you decided on the style, then you choose the color.  Once you choose the color, then you have to pick the right size!  If you wear a size 12 you can’t possibly fit a 10. It’ll cut off your circulation!  If you pick a size 14 you will be stuntin’ but ultimately lose your footing because it’s too big.

Ladies you should never be caught chasing a man.  If he wants you he will come get you!  Men are not shy when it comes to want they want!  And fellas if she is the aggressor you will always be the tail and not the head.  You will find yourself chasing her vision and her dream and not your own. 

Just something to think about!  2017 is going to be a great year!  Don’t make it harder on yourself!

 

7 DAYS OF CONSUMING GOOD FRUIT

FAITH

 

Ephesians 2:8-9 – For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: [it is] the gift of God: 

 

Faith is one of the many gifts we receive immediately when we receive the Holy Spirit.  You know the Spirit is like a awesome goody bag or a Christmas stocking, filled with unexpected surprises you can enjoy.  How you use it will determine your journey with God.  With faith you can enjoy the limitless possibilities with God, but without you live a life wondering “what if”.

2 Corinthians 5:7 – (For we walk by faith, not by sight:)

Don’t think that this scripture is saying your walking blindly.  You receive instructions along the way.  You will NOT get the entire picture!  So you won’t get step 1, 2, and 3 all in one prayer.  God is sooooo like a teacher.  He gives you step one, then when you successfully complete step one, he gives you step 2.

 

Hebrews 11:1 – Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

The best way to break this scripture down is to give a real example.  I am a single woman.  I have prayed to God that he would bless me with a mate that he knows what’s best for me.  I threw in the towel trying to find one for myself. My faith says that God will bless me with a mate in his perfect timing.  My faith says that we will be put together based on his purpose and destiny for our lives.  The fact is I can’t see this with my natural eye.  I see this with my spiritual eye.

 

Romans 10:17 – So then faith [cometh] by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.

Faith only comes by hearing the word of God!  Here are the 3 must to hear the word of God:

PRAYER

READING GOD’S WORD

ATTENDING CHURCH

I know the last one is not a favorite to those who don’t believe in attending church.  But it is another way to hear the word of God!  Your faith increases as you hear God’s word broken down in a way you can gain understanding.  No one is bible scholar right of the bat!  You grow in knowledge as God opens your understanding!

Faith moves mountains in your life!  Faith heals!  Faith delivers!  Faith saves lost souls like you and me!  You need faith to please God!  The benefit is this:  you grow closer to God and he will show you things that you didn’t know about yourself!  And when you walk in those things!  You begin to perform the things God spoke about in his word and about you!

I believe it happens 4 times in the gospels that Jesus did something to fulfill the prophecies in the Old Testament.  E.g. when Jesus went to the temple and read the scripture.

Luke 4:20-22 Then He rolled up the scroll, returned it to the attendant, and sat down. The eyes of everyone in the synagogue were fixed on Him, and He began by saying, “Today this Scripture is fulfilled in yourhearing.” All spoke well of Him and marveled at the gracious words that came from His lips. “Isn’t this the son of Joseph?” they asked.…

Jesus heard and read the word of God.  And then he performed it!  That’s faith in a nutshell.  So how do we follow this principle?  Like the famous Nike slogan says.

Just do it….

 

 

THEMES OF A BROKEN PERSON

Deuteronomy 2:3(KJV)

Ye have compassed this mountain long enough: turn you northward.

This scripture gave me life the first time I digested it in the beginning of 2015.  I use the word digested because I have read Deuteronomy several times and never paid attention to that powerful verse!  The Lord had dropped a much needed revelation from this overlooked scripture.  

For me this meant the mountain of poverty, sickness/disease, depression, and a broken heart!  I am certain many of you have suffered from many of these afflictions and probably can add to the list!  Feel free to make your own and then apply this scripture to your prayers to God exalting him!  Declare, “I have compassed the mountain of poverty, sickness, etc. and I will move forward!”  

This will be one of many titled blogs, so for the first session I would like to focus on a broken heart.  Christians with a broken heart or spirit if they are not seeking God walk in defense mode.  A wall of stone is built around their heart so that no one can hurt them again. They are like pit bulls, don’t get too close or they will bite you!  

Themes of a broken person often play on repeat in the secret places of their mind.  The hide resentment, bitterness, anger, jealousy, envy, and even malice.   They wish ill will on those who they feel have wronged them. They rehearse events in their minds that caused them to lose trust in others.  They speak peace but really there is a war going on in their hearts and their thoughts.  So without realizing it they never grow in God.  They spend their lives circling the same mountains.  How do you come out of these dangerous life cycles…to be continued….